Works mid-meltdown, in under 90 seconds
Real printed cards, no screen for your child
Therapist-designed
Thea C.My almost 6 year old will be angry and in meltdown mode and when he can’t get any other words out, he will yell “CAAAARRRRDDDD!!” And we run and grab the cards. … it truly was a game changer! …
The Complete Big Feelings System
The calm-down cards for the moment you want to yell
142,451+ families use it
A 60-second move for your child, and the words for you. Ages 3-10.
- Works mid-meltdown, in under 90 seconds
- Tells you exactly what to say
- Real printed cards, no screen for your child
- Ages 3 to 10
- Therapist-designed
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Choose your bundle
Included with every order
- Instant digital edition while your printed cards ship
- SOS mode
- 90-Day Calm Promise
INCLUDED FREE WITH YOUR ORDER
Bedtime storiesEvery night, to help them fall asleep
A daily calm cardYour child's 90-Day Calm Plan, by email
A new calm skillEvery month
Parent Coach, 24/7Ask about your own child
The Parent CircleParents swapping what worked
Free gifts worth $77, yours to keep
Your child's Calm Song$19 value
The After-I-Yelled Kit$29 value
The Calm Strategies Blueprint$29 value
+ 3 free gifts: Song, Kit, Blueprint
Your Calm Club renews at $19/month after 30 days until you cancel. We email you 7 days before, and you can cancel online anytime.
- Today:
- $98. Your 3 decks, yours forever.
- Day 30:
- Calm Club continues at $19/month until you cancel. We email you 7 days before. Cancel in 2 taps.
Free shipping · On your phone tonight · 90-Day Calm Promise
Free gifts worth $77, yours to keep
Free shipping. Arrives in about 7 days.
Instant access: your cards + Calm Song are on your phone tonight.
Shorter meltdowns or your money back.
Amanda B.Bought these cards “just in case” they actually proved useful. Had no idea if they would. … He spent most of the evening asking family members “ How are you feeling?”, & reading the activities on the cards to us. This is a complete transformation in two days. …
Shareen L.Yeah I ordered mine at 4am on Wednesday lol. Worked first time (5-year old) 👍🏽
Lisa P.Bought these for my grandson, 2 days in and he’s shyly picked 2 cards. It worked 😌
Calm the meltdown in under 90 seconds
Elizabeth T.I just started using these with my 6yo a couple days ago. Tonight he brought the box to me and said “mama, I’m pretty mad. Can we do a couple of these cards to calm down?” …
From 12-Minute Meltdowns to Under 90 Seconds
Before: 12 minutes
With the cards: under 90 seconds2
Parents' own estimates, from our survey of 841 families
94% say meltdowns got shorter within 30 days1
Prepared before the next meltdown
Practice one card a day while everyone is calm. Reach for it in the storm.
- 54 printed cards
- 6 feelings
- Instant digital edition too
- SOS mode
Instant digital edition too
SOS modeFree shipping90-Day Calm Promise
One Card. Two Sides. Zero Guesswork.
Your child's side: a silly monster and a 60-second move. Your side: the exact words to say, and the one thing not to say. 54 cards, 9 for each feeling.
On your phone, the app tells you which card works best for your child.
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One card a day, about 60 seconds
Your child picks it. You pick the time.
- Pick a time: morning, after school or bedtime.
- Today's card arrives by email. Your child picks one of three, and you do the move together. 60 seconds.
- Rate it with one tap. The app learns which cards work for your child, so SOS shows those first.
When to use it
- Morning
- Start the day calm, before the rush out the door.
- After school
- For the 3:15 crash, before homework.
- Screens off
- A 5-minute heads-up on your phone, then a card, not a fight.
- In a meltdown
- Press SOS. It shows the card that works best for your child, and exactly what to say.
- Bedtime
- A calm story where a character uses today's card.
- Every Sunday
- A report: hard moments this week, days you did a card together, and which cards worked.
Your first 90 days
- TonightYour child's 90-Day Calm Plan and tonight's story. SOS is one tap away. With the Calm Club, a song with their name in it.
- Week 1Your printed cards arrive. Your child picks their first cards, and a meltdown can end with a card instead of a shout.
- Day 30Month 2 begins: switching off screens, leaving the park, stopping play, with the same cards.
- Day 90The goal: your child reaches for a card on their own.
Tonight
Week 1
Day 30
Day 90Every child is different.
How the Calm Club works
Today
The app, SOS and Calm Song unlock + your decks are on their way
Tonight
First bedtime story + today's card
In 3 days
After-I-Yelled Kit unlocks
In 5 days
Calm Strategies Blueprint unlocks
In 23 days
We email you a reminder, 7 days before
In 30 days
Calm Club continues at $19/month: a story every night + a new skill each month
Anytime
Cancel online in 2 taps. Keep the cards, unlocked gifts and SOS.
Why It Works When Time-Outs and Yelling Don't
Time-outs, sticker charts and ‘calm down!’ ask a thinking brain to do the work. In a meltdown, that brain is offline. So the cards start with the body.
| Big Feelings | Yelling | Time-outs | Sticker charts | |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Works mid-meltdown | ✓ | ✗ | ✗ | ✗ |
| Tells you exactly what to say | ✓ | ✗ | ✗ | ✗ |
| Ready in 60 seconds, no prep | ✓ | ✗ | ✗ | ✗ |
| Your child wants to do it | ✓ | ✗ | ✗ | At first |
| Calms the body first | ✓ | ✗ | ✗ | ✗ |
| Learns what works for your child | ✓ | ✗ | ✗ | ✗ |
Frequently asked questions
Everything parents need to know about the Big Feelings cards
Who made it
Made by Debbie Carter, a former teacher and mom of 2.
Is it worth the price?
Less than one babysitter night a month, and you never have to leave the house to use it.
The real math: $98 today for 3 decks. Then 63¢ a day.
What if my child won't do it?
Kids like it because they pick the card, and the moves feel like a game. With the Calm Club, their Calm Song has their own name in it.
How to start: do the daily card while they're calm, let them pick, do the move with them, and cheer when they finish.
And you're covered by the 90-Day Calm Promise.
What ages is it for?
| Age | What changes |
|---|---|
| 3-5 | Shortest words, most pictures, shorter stories |
| 6-8 | Fuller scripts, the child starts picking alone |
| 9-10 | More grown-up wording and stories |
| 11+ | See the Tween & Teen Edition |
Is this a subscription?
The cards are a one-time purchase. The Calm Club is optional. It is free for 30 days, then $19/month. Untick it on this page if you only want the cards.
What if it doesn't work for us?
Use it for up to 90 days from your order. If meltdowns aren't shorter, email us by day 90 and we refund every payment. Keep the cards.
Is this more screen time for my child?
No. Your child uses the printed cards. The phone is for you: it tells you which card and what to say. The bedtime story is audio, so the screen can stay dark.
My child has ADHD, autism or anxiety. Will it fit?
It works by what your child does, not a label. Setup suggests settings like Picture mode (fewer words), Move first and Worry time, and the app learns which cards work for your child.
How long before I see a difference?
In our survey, 94% of parents said meltdowns got shorter within 30 days.¹ The daily card is what makes it stick, so give it the full 90 days.
Are the cards printed or digital?
Both. 54 printed cards are mailed to you and arrive in about 7 days. The same cards are on your phone tonight, so you can start before the box arrives.
How much is shipping?
$5 on one deck. Free on 3 decks or more.
Will it replace therapy or medication?
No. It's a calm-down tool for the moment. It doesn't treat any condition. Many families use it between appointments and share the cards with their therapist or OT, so everyone uses the same words. If you're worried about your child, talk to your doctor.
How much time does it take?
About 60 seconds a day for the daily card, under 90 seconds in a meltdown, and a 10-minute bedtime story that does the work for you.
Can I use it for more than one child?
Yes. Up to 4 children, each with their own cards, plan and story.
Can I give it as a gift?
Yes. The gift edition is $69, with no auto-billing: 54 printed cards and the family's first month of the Calm Plan, a daily email. See the gift page.
The 90-Day Calm Promise
Use the cards for up to 90 days from your order.
If meltdowns aren't shorter, email us by day 90 and we refund every payment.
You keep the cards. Less than 1% of families ever ask, but you always can.
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