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The Big Feelings Deck - Instant Access + Printed Cards Shipped
Printed cards shipped to your door plus instant digital access tonight, built for the moment you and your kid are BOTH losing it. Use the digital deck on your phone within 60 seconds while the printed deck ships from our US warehouse.
- 54 cards
- 6 emotions
- Ships in 24h
- Digital in 60 sec
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- Printed cards shipped to your door
- Preschoolers, school-aged kids, and pre-teens
- Therapist-built and evidence-based
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You said you wouldn't yell. Then you did. Again.
It was 7:32am and you could feel it in your chest again. That familiar tightness, racing heart, hands already shaking. You promised yourself last night you'd be patient today. But your kid loses it over the wrong cup, and you need something that works right now. Not after six weeks of charts. In the moment, when you're BOTH about to lose it.
Here's what nobody tells you about meltdowns: your kid's brain during a meltdown is completely offline. Logic? Nope. Consequences? Can't process them. Take deep breaths? Might as well be speaking French. And you can't be their calm when you're losing it too. That's why sticker charts collect dust and timeouts just make everyone cry harder.
You don't need another method. You need something that works right now, for them AND for you.
What you get
What you get
- The printed Big Feelings Deck: 54 simple, visual cards shipped from our US warehouse within 24 hours, with free shipping included
- Instant digital access in your inbox within 60 seconds of checkout, so you can use it tonight on your phone before the printed deck is even out the door
- 6 color-coded emotions (Angry, Sad, Worried, Overwhelmed, Frustrated, Happy) so kids can find what they need at a glance
- One card, two sides: one side tells your child what to do, the other side hands you the exact words to say so your brain doesn't go blank
- 90-second, sensory-first activities like Dragon Fire Breaths and Stomp Like a Dinosaur that kids think are fun games and you know are regulation tools
- Bonus Therapist Meltdown Scripts, auto-added free, plus our 90-day money-back guarantee: if it doesn't help, email us and we'll make it right, no hoops
Straight from the deck
What's actually on the cards
One deck, 54 cards, sorted by feeling. Your kid picks the card that matches the feeling, and the card does the talking. These are three real cards, word for word.
Real families, real footage
Over 111,868 families stopped yelling and started connecting.
Why both printed and digital
Because meltdowns happen everywhere. Sometimes you're in the car, so the digital deck is on your phone. Sometimes you're at the kitchen table, so the printed deck is on the fridge. Sometimes you forgot your phone, so the printed deck is in your purse. One order covers every scenario. Use the digital tonight while the printed deck ships, then keep the printed deck in your car, your purse, or on the fridge.
Every card gives you the simple action your child does (movement, breathing, or a sensory reset) and the exact words you say. It's Pick, Say, Do: pick a color without overthinking it, say the one-line script on the card, do the 60-second action together. No app to download. No lectures to memorize. The digital just opens on your phone like a webpage. Quick, simple, visual.
And here's the part nobody talks about: these cards work when you're BOTH losing it. When you're touched out, talked out, completely done. Most tools assume you're calm enough to use them. These don't. They give you something to DO when your own nervous system is flooding. It works especially well for ADHD, autism, and sensory-sensitive kids because it's body-based, not lecture-based.
The printed cards are laminated, because spills, sticky hands, and chocolate fingers happen. They're sized to fit in a purse or diaper bag, and the box has a magnetic closure so cards don't fall out in your car. Most US orders arrive in 5-10 days, international orders typically in 7-10 business days, and you'll get an email with tracking as soon as your order ships.
You don't have to be calm first. You just grab a card.
How it works
Simple enough to use tonight
Reach for a card
The moment a feeling hits, you grab the card that fits instead of scrambling for the right words.
Read the script
Every card is written word-for-word by age, so you just read it out loud. No prep, no training.
Watch them settle
Your kid picks a calm-down strategy they actually like, and the storm passes faster than it used to.
What changes, and when
From mid-meltdown panic to a routine
Tonight
One card, one calm-down
The next big feeling, you grab a card instead of scrambling. One script for you, one 60-second reset for them. No prep, no props.
Week 1
You feel it working
90% of families see a change within the first week. Meltdowns get shorter because you both know what happens next.
Month 1
They reach for the cards themselves
94% of families report fewer meltdowns. The card basket becomes the routine, and kids start picking their own reset before you ask.
The people behind it
Built by people who needed this too
Trailies isn't a worksheet from a stranger. It's the script two people wished they'd had, made with the clinicians who know what actually works.
I spent years watching good parents freeze at the exact moment their kid needed words. So we wrote the words down.
Nobody handed my parents a script. I built the one I wish they'd had, so the next kid gets the talk instead of the silence.
Every deck and script is built with child psychologists and grounded in PCIT, CBT, and 200+ studies.
No production crew
Real families. Real rooms.
The honest comparison
Why a script beats winging it
In-the-moment calm-down cards
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Sorted by feeling, chosen by your kid
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Age-banded (3-10 and tween/teen)
The Big Feelings Deck- Books:
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PCIT / CBT-informed
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- Partial
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- Hit or miss
Works the second a meltdown starts
The Big Feelings Deck- Books:
- Read first
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- Winging it:
- Yes
What it costs
$49.95The Big Feelings Deck- Books:
- $15-20 each
- Assembly:
- If your school offers one
- Winging it:
- Free, but you are on your own
Reviews
What parents are saying
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as a TK teacher i'm introducing the big feelings deck with my class this semester. the language is perfect for this age — concrete, clear, accessible. my colleagues are already asking to borrow the cards.
Melissa C
Verified Buyer
the key is knowing what kind of big feeling you're dealing with. a frustration tantrum and a temper tantrum need different responses. these cards address both — and the guidance for parents on how to tell the difference is actually really helpful.
Barry C
Verified Buyer
initially nothing shifted. then on day 4 or 5 my son stopped mid-meltdown and asked for the cards himself. i put them away thinking we were done but he's been asking again. the key: show them during calm times first. talk about the emotions. model using them yourself. then they work when it's hard.
Jenny P
Verified Buyer
as a body safety educator i want to highlight that emotional literacy — which the big feelings deck builds — is actually a protective factor against abuse. children who can name and communicate their feelings are more likely to disclose if something happens. these two products work together.
Rebecca B
Verified Buyer
we use these at circle time and i've noticed a measurable change in how the kids in my class handle frustration over the semester. they're naming their feelings instead of acting them out. that's the whole goal of emotional regulation education. these cards do it.
Wendy F
Verified Buyer
used these in my foster support group. parents of children with early trauma need concrete tools more than anyone — and these cards are exactly that. concrete, visual, repeatable. the children in our group took to them immediately.
Jana H
Verified Buyer
Questions
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Everything you get today
The Big Feelings Deck - Instant Access + Printed Cards Shipped
- The printed Big Feelings Deck: 54 simple, visual cards shipped from our US warehouse within 24 hours, with free shipping included
- Instant digital access in your inbox within 60 seconds of checkout, so you can use it tonight on your phone before the printed deck is even out the door
- 6 color-coded emotions (Angry, Sad, Worried, Overwhelmed, Frustrated, Happy) so kids can find what they need at a glance
- One card, two sides: one side tells your child what to do, the other side hands you the exact words to say so your brain doesn't go blank
- 90-second, sensory-first activities like Dragon Fire Breaths and Stomp Like a Dinosaur that kids think are fun games and you know are regulation tools
- Bonus Therapist Meltdown Scripts, auto-added free, plus our 90-day money-back guarantee: if it doesn't help, email us and we'll make it right, no hoops
The 90-day money-back guarantee
Try it with your family, risk-free. If it's not right for you, email us within 90 days and we'll make it right, no hoops and no hard feelings. The only risk is another week of winging it.
Every Talk you buy, another family gets one free.
3,200+ Talks gifted so far through the Trailies Forward Fund. No strings — just one parent making sure another has the words too.
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